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Tuesday, November 4, 2025

Personal Blog 21

Two blogs in one day. This is what I did for my college essay. I just barely got it short enough to the exact word length.

Coming into my freshman year, I was a very scared kid. I had grown up religious, but due to several factors, I was starting to break away from it. I didn't really have any good friends; my best friend, Isaac, had moved away in the 7th grade, and my other closest friend was possessive and wouldn't let me have other friends. The only reason I was in band in the first place was because Isaac asked me to join the class, and I really liked being around him, so I did, and in middle school, it was fun, but not something that I would write a college essay about. Joining marching band was like getting woken up with a bucket of water. 

I showed up to the icebreaker night at the end of my 8th grade year, and I was overwhelmed by how excited these high school teenagers were to meet me, and I didn't really understand why. Even when I went to the summer practices, and I felt more loved and accepted by a community of peers, I still didn't get it. But then it became the end of marching season, and it was the night when the seniors gave their speeches. They talked about how much marching band changed and shaped them, how they became better people through marching band, and I realized then that's why they were so excited to meet me; they wanted to share what had affected them so much with other people. A group of people that deeply care about each other and what they do, and a teacher that drives them to be better.

Mr. Black, the band director, has a lot of things he likes to say, some of them are inspirational, some are funny, and some of them are frustrating in the moment. When asked questions he can't answer, "figure it out." That's frustrating to hear, but I've learned that most times, I'm able to figure it out myself, and that doing so gives a sense of satisfaction. But the most impactful thing he's ever said is a quote from someone else (Dr. Wayne Dyer), "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Really he meant that in reference to practice, how practice doesn't have to be something you dread, but something you enjoy. Now it means a lot more to me.

Throughout high school I made a lot of decisions, ones that helped me and ones that hurt me. I quit engineering, joined theater, spent time wallowing in self-pity, made friends, and lost friends. But through all of that, I had the band. When I felt hopeless, I could simply choose to remember that there are kind, genuine people in the world. All I had to do was change the way I looked at things for the world to be full of hope again. Then suddenly it was October 29th, and it's time to give my senior speech. Now I was the one expressing how marching band changed me. and instead of talking about my story or thanking all my friends individually, I chose to talk about the greatest lesson I ever learned, the freedom of being alive.

It was marching band that taught me that my choices are what matter in life. It was Mr. Black that taught me that I can change the things I look at. It was marching band where I saw what can happen when a group of people choose to make something great. I know that I will die someday and I don't know what will happen after, but I don't care, because it doesn't matter to me. It's your freedom and choices that matter. I want to be a teacher so that I can teach people that same thing. That when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at do change.

- Basil

Personal Blog 20

On Sunday I was officially told by K & V that they don't want to be friends with me ever. In post I understand it wasn't all my fault. Yes I hurt them by crossing boundaries, but they also hurt me. Lying for so long and not telling the truth of why and that they really were excluding me. Even to the last moment. It took me making the effort to get the truth out of them for me to actually get it. I'm obviously sad about all of it. I'll miss them. And their families. But I'm also angry. That they lied for so long. I wouldn't say this to them, but they really did give up on being friends with me. A while ago. K says he was making an effort but that's not really true. If we had really talked about this then the whole situation could have been avoided. But both of them lied and didn't tell me things, and for what? To protect my feelings? All it did was make me more paranoid and hurt me more in the long term, while they postponed the discomfort of a confrontation for themselves. Yeah, I treated them like objects in the sense of pushing boundaries because I wanted to experience the friendship I did before, but they also treated me like an object in the sense of wanting to get rid of me when it got difficult and I didn't entertain them like I used to. When I get hurt and overwhelmed I double down, which is unhealthy. When the two of them got hurt, they shrank back and gave up. People aren't objects or toys.

The Importance of Being Earnest ended weeks ago, and marching season ended last week. Everything has been so overwhelming I didn't really get to process either of them the way I wanted to. This is my senior year. Everything I am doing it is for the last time. I  Auditioned and got called back for Little Shop of Horrors. I am hoping to get Mr. Mushnik. 

- Basil 

Last Personal Blog

 I'm gonna start keeping a journal, so I am only gonna put rants and stuff on here. The losers get to win. - Basil